I’ve been mulling over the idea of this blog post for quite a while now, and I’ve finally decided to type out my thoughts on this much discussed and incredibly important topic.
I guess the main reason I’ve been prolonging writing this post is because I don’t think I have anything new to say. However, what I’ve begun to realise lately is that it doesn’t matter whether the underlying message isn’t completely new; it’s about spreading the message that’s important. Some of my favourite bloggers have been sharing their thoughts on this topic lately and I’ve found it refreshing, comforting and inspiring to read what they have to say.
Whilst I’ll be the first to acknowledge that my blog isn’t the most influential and popular blog out there – I hope that even if only a few people read this and take something away from it, it has been worth my while writing it. Because promoting body confidence, self love and real beauty – inside and out – is something very important. I think it’s even more now with the advent of social media, which we are exposed to every day. I hope you find this post interesting and helpful. 🙂
The Influence of Social Media…
Firstly, I’d like to start with saying that this post isn’t meant to rip social media to threads and cast away all of the great things that it is capable of – I want to focus on it’s influence on self confidence, self love and body image.
We live in a world where social media is more often than not the first thing we look at in the morning and the last thing we look at before bed. However, social media isn’t always great when it comes to the aforementioned topics. Since the advent of social media, the lines between what’s real and what’s digitally manipulated have become blurred. We now know that billboards and ads in the media are photoshopped, digitally enhanced and quite frankly fake.
However, the appearance versus reality of peoples’ lives on social media aren’t quite so clear. Social media is a ‘highlights reel’ of peoples’ lives, it is not their everyday life. People use apps like facetune and snapchat filters that hide blemishes, and post #unfiltered and #iwokeuplikethis selfies that aren’t actually real life. We only see the final and edited version of an image. For all we know, they could be 100 pictures that didn’t make it online because the person simply didn’t like how they looked. I think this is something important to remember when you’re next scrolling through your feed – although it’s fun to follow people online, the parts of their lives that they choose to share are simply that – just a part of their life.
5 Things to Keep in Mind When You’re on Social Media…
So I thought I would share a few things I like to keep in mind when I’m scrolling through my Instagram feed:
#1: It’s a highlights reel and a filtered reality, not everyday life.
#2: Your life doesn’t have to always be photogenic and #instaworthy for it to be meaningful and enjoyable.
#3: The presence of someone else’s beauty does not mean the absence of your own.
#4: Being unique is beauty in itself – if everyone was the same, life would be pretty boring.
#5: It’s important to remember that the same way people can shape your perception of them online, you can shape the messages you receive. Whether it be taking a digital detox and ‘unplugging’ for a little while… In the greater scheme of things, if you’re looking for a more long-term solution, it might be helpful to start editing your social media feeds. This could be by unfollowing accounts that do not promote positivity and inspire you, allowing you create a more meaningful and positive feed. It may also be helpful to follow accounts that deconstruct these images, like comedian Celeste Barber, or post realistic everyday images.(By the way, I’m currently working on another blog post all about this, so I’ll be sharing some more advice on creating a positive space online very soon…).
Now, to conclude this rambling post on a positive and hopefully motivational note, I thought I would share some of my favourite quotes from Pinterest about beauty and self confidence in every aspect of your life. I think these are all lovely reminders that beauty comes in all different forms – inside and out – and doesn’t depend on things like whether you have a flawless complexion, look put together 100% of the time, are skinny, or have millions of followers…
‘Self-confidence is the best outfit, rock it and own it’.
‘People are prettiest when they talk about something they really love with passion in their eyes’ – k.v.h.
‘Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself’.
‘If you have positive thoughts, they will shine out of your face like sun beams and you will always look lovely’ – Roald Dahl
‘To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself’.
‘Being happy doesn’t mean that everything has to be perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections’.
‘To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself’ – Thich Nhat Hanh.
‘People always ask me, “you have so much confidence. Where did that come from?” It came from me. One day I decided that I was beautiful, and so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl… it doesn’t have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see. Your body is your temple, it’s your home, and you must decorate it’ – Gabourey Sidibe
‘Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring’ – Marilyn Monroe.
‘We are like a snowflake, all different in our own beautiful way’.
‘True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It’s the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows and the beauty of a women only grows with passing years’ – Audrey Hepburn.
You might find it helpful to place some of these quotes in places you regularly look at to serve as friendly reminders. Some examples include adding them to a vision board or mood board, decorating your favourite room with some inspiring quotes like these, or copying a few of these quotes and creating colourful graphics using apps like Canva to then use as a laptop or phone background (something you’re always bound to look at every day!) 🙂
As the wise Liv Purvis said ‘know that your value, beauty and strength is so much more than a number inside a garment… looking after for yourself lasts a lifetime’. I couldn’t agree more.
You are beautiful inside and out, don’t every forget it. 🙂
Daisy Chain Daydreams xxx